Updated as of December 28. 2019
Financial abuse. It's a term so many of us never hear of but, is a form of control many of us are suffering from. Someone with NPD will usually do their best to make sure their victim stays reliant on their evil funds. This is done to monitor the victim's spending and to eliminate any chance the victim leaving. Feeling they'll never reach freedom, this forces them to be stuck beneath the narcissist. Luckily, there are ways one can escape the chains of financial abuse and this blog will help show you how.
Financial abuse. It's a term so many of us never hear of but, is a form of control many of us are suffering from. Someone with NPD will usually do their best to make sure their victim stays reliant on their evil funds. This is done to monitor the victim's spending and to eliminate any chance the victim leaving. Feeling they'll never reach freedom, this forces them to be stuck beneath the narcissist. Luckily, there are ways one can escape the chains of financial abuse and this blog will help show you how.
1. Asking For Help. Realistically, the narcissist wants so much control that they may hide any means of communication the victim may have access to. Leaving the victim unable to contact friends, family or even the police, this kind of isolation makes it difficult to reach out to someone. In this scenario, if you can leave the home, simply start asking for help. Go to a neighbor and explain the danger you may be in. Even if it may be a stranger, ask if you can contact the police. At this point, anything will have to do.
If this is not the case and there is internet and phone access, start searching for a Victim Advocate. A victim advocate will guide him/her through the leaving process safely and keep them well informed. (Contact National Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799 SAFE(7233) or TTY 1 800 787 3224 to learn more)
If this is not the case and there is internet and phone access, start searching for a Victim Advocate. A victim advocate will guide him/her through the leaving process safely and keep them well informed. (Contact National Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799 SAFE(7233) or TTY 1 800 787 3224 to learn more)
2. Find Work or Assistance. This is obviously much easier said than done. The victim may not have been allowed to work and make money for themselves, so the next best thing to do is to find a part time job. So many victims of NPD abuse start with a career and many rewarding opportunities in their life. After, they either end up as a stay - at- home partner or severely depressed because they can no longer pursue their dreams. Some, even homeless. Now, they must start over and that's ok. Take a low stress position anywhere so you can build a foundation for stability.
3. With this new job, this person should obtain a P.O. Box or the use of a trusted person's mailing address. Even if the victim did not have to obtain a new career, getting a new mailing address is key as they must open a new bank account and receive mail in privacy. A P.O. Box does come with a small monthly fee but, is the start of stability which makes it a need. Now, the bank, employers, doctors and everyone can send information, privately, and ensure safety.
4. Open a new bank account. Opening a new bank account is imperative! Its not just a step to financial freedom it's also a symbol. Having that debit card in your hard will show you, new beginnings are here. Now you can save safely, access many programs the bank my offer and avoid possible fraud from the abuser.
4. Open a new bank account. Opening a new bank account is imperative! Its not just a step to financial freedom it's also a symbol. Having that debit card in your hard will show you, new beginnings are here. Now you can save safely, access many programs the bank my offer and avoid possible fraud from the abuser.
4. Start Saving Money. Even if it's as low as $5 from each pay check, anything will help. Since it has been a while since they have been able to save anything, this person will possibly need to restore credit, find a place to live and so on. So, saving today is a great way to avoid poverty due to financial abuse.
5. Find Housing. Speaking from experience, I had no problem sleeping in the streets if it meant not being around my abuser BUT we DO NOT and should not have to take that route. There are indeed places that can help battered women as well as men who have been suffering from domestic abuse. Although there is little to no help for adult children of NPD parents, organizations and shelters help people with and without children until they can get back on their feet. Places like the public library have resources to help.
6. Try A Minimalistic Lifestyle. Depending on the quality of life sustained during the relationship, some people may need to accept a new way of living. Many victims choose not to leave because of the fear of being homeless or simply having less materialistically. If they can understand that they won't have the same living standards as they did during abuse, they will do well recovering. 100% of men and women dealing with a partner with NPD will take anything if it means no longer living is caos.
If you or someone you know if suffering from financial abuse, feel free to contact me at mandyhomes17@gmail.com so together, we can find help in your area.
Remember, the narcissist may have put a pause on economic progression but, they did not put a pause on how exceptional you are.
Remember, the narcissist may have put a pause on economic progression but, they did not put a pause on how exceptional you are.
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